This goes double for when they’re on the bus, the subway or the train.
A woman reading or listening to her headphones is making a determined effort to shut the world out until it’s time for her to get off at her stop.
But just as important as it is to be willing to approach women you don’t know, it’s important to know when you approached.
Almost every woman out there has a story about being harassed by guys who wanted to “just say hello” and who thought that their desire to introduce themselves overrode her right to be left alone.
One of the keys to social calibration is understanding the cues and context that tell you when a woman is open to being approached and when she isn’t.
Now an obvious caveat: people are people and everyone sets their boundaries where they see fit.
And no, it doesn’t matter if you notice she’s updating her Facebook page instead of working on her thesis; if she was interested in talking to somebody, she wouldn’t be focusing on a computer screen.
If you want to ask her for her opinion on the Jim Butcher book she’s reading, the you can wait until she’s put the book down, rather than plopping yourself in in the seat next to her and demanding that she pay attention to you.
This is the background radiation of her commute – never knowing if the guy who sits next to her or around her is going to just be annoying or if he’s going to jerk off in front of her.Who goes from being a stranger to a full-blown creeper in the span of a couple sentences because they won’t take a hint. They will complain that it’s unfair to miss out on missing someone awesome just because some creeper somewhere might have weirded a woman out.This is one of the reasons why social calibration is one of the most important parts of getting better at dating; recognizing the times when it is and appropriate to approach women is vital – not just to your dating success but to avoiding being creepy by accident.Approaching women while they’re at work is a rigged game, especially if they’re working in the service industry or any job where a woman has to be “nice” for a living.Don’t get me wrong; to some guys, the cute barista is more appealing than any other woman on Earth…